It is amazing. It works. I too am a reactionary person. When my husband talks to me I am almost always thinking of what he wants me to say in response. I realize now after working with you that I was NOT actively listening because I was trying to people please my husband with what he was expecting from talking with me rather than just listening and absorbing. It's wonderful. I have been to counseling with several different providers and never gotten this revelation.
When I began with a peanut size idea that I wanted to give back to a world which I had been frightened to be part of for so long and that I'd never truly felt part of - it was very simple!
Self Love is a process they told me. You can’t sell a process.